Kids Sports – Do the Kids Have Unhealthy Expectations?

Kids Sports – Are the Kids Expectations Too High?

Unhealthy expectations, which are not met in competition, may lead some kids very frustrated. How to help kids to have more fun in sports?

Kids Sports Psychology – How to avoid frustrations and unhealthy expectations by the kids?

Take a look at this nice sports psychology advice we discovered:

1. Discover if your kids have high expectations.

Are they thinking: “I have to get a kill every time”, “I have to put the serve over every time”, “I have to get 20 kills in each match”.

2. Help kids get rid of those expectations.

They may set up those high goals themselves.  Or those expectations may come from outside people.

Those expectations could be based on winning and losing – or how well they performed in the match. No more goals in which they are yearning for perfection: “I have to get 20 kills in the match”, “I have to put every serve in”.

3. Help your kids to set up smaller goals.

Set up goals which can be achieved easily.

  • For example they should have a goal to “focus on one play, one serve, one shot or one spike at the time”.
  • Or kids could set up a goal to make “quality serves” – you can define together what this means – for example you could set up a goal to serve with a good top spin what you have been working on in the previous week.

They should focus on something small that they can focus in the process of playing. Focus on small goals in the moment (“Now I am doing the tossing correctly, then following with a nice wrist snap”). Do not think about big goals in the process of playing (“I can’t make any serving errors in this match. I have to serve every serve in”).   The goals should easily achievable.

Those steps help kids to avoid disappointment and becoming frustrated.  Then they perform with confidence – without focusing on the outcome, which they can’t control themselves.

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Kids Sports Psychology – Talent vs. Work Ethic

Kids sports psychology – which is more important talent or work ethic?

Talent is overrated. A talented athlete without willingness to prepare will not be successful in the long run.

Bringing up work ethic is one of the best things a parent or coach can do for the kids in sports.

We found some good suggestions for parents and coaches to develop a good work ethic in their kids.

How to Bring Up the Work Ethic?

Praise kids’ effort – not the results.

No false praise. Don’t praise, if the effort was clearly lacking.

Let kids know that athletes who have the work ethic will be successful in the long run, over the natural athletes.

Teach kids they often can’t control the outcome, but they can control the effort they put to prepare.

Tell kids you consider them a success, when they have had the will to prepare – no matter what the result is.

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How to Boost Self Confidence for Kids?

How to boost self confidence for kids? How to help kids to build a healthy self esteem?

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This is a must read for all the coaches. You can’t find a more educating free article in the web. Biggest thanks for the writer!

A guide for teachers, parents and children to build a healthy self esteem for kids.

Self Confidence for Kids

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Motivating Your Team To Be More Competitive

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Sports Psychology – Playing Against a Weaker Team

Sports psychology tips for playing against a weaker team.

I am sure you watched Olympic Games on TV and saw underdog teams surprising the clear favorites.  One example of this was when the US men’s hockey team beat a clear favorite, the Canadian hockey team in the preliminary round.

How to play against a weaker team?

1. Do not take an underdog team too lightly or set expectations about who should win.

2. Always put a real effort to design a game plan or strategy.

3.  Get excited and be passionate to compete. Without intensity you are not able to focus 100% to the game, which leads to bad performance.

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